Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Do you consider this a mean girl?



Caring for Aging Relative Pits Husband Against Wife - ABC News

I don't know how to upload videos.... Just can't figure it out. I think if you click on that stuff above it will link to the video. As hard as I tried to post the video, the best I could do was the link up above. I'm clueless in this techno world.... Anyway - not sure how many of ya'll may have caught ABC Primetime last night (Tuesday) about a family struggling with Alzheimer's. It was a very sad story.

You want to know something else sad? The daughter-in-law in this story chased me on my bicycle when I was 8-years-old, causing me to crash and burn and having to get stitches in my chin.



I still have the lovely scar.

And the childhood trauma of being chased by a girl that was about 4 years older than me and riding a 10-speed. I was on my cute little purple (lavender) bike with the banana seat and little white basket.

That's all I have to say about that....

16 comments:

Diane @ Four Paws and Co said...

Yep, she's definitely a mean girl. Did your parents talk to her parents??? ☺ Diane

Theresa said...

Since my husband and I cared for my mother in our home for 7 years, I do very well understand the stress this couple is under. We were not dealing with being newlyweds, or with Alzheimer's, but my mother was much less than cooperative. My prayers are with this couple!

Justine said...

I didn't read the story ('cause I'm too lazy) but I'm guessing the girl is still a bitch?

Justine :o )

vlb5757 said...

We just got back from burying my husband's grandmother. She had Alzheimers and it was a blessing she died in her sleep. The family all pitched in to help and they all looked so tired. It wears you down day by day. I think the grandmother was a more pleasant person and wasn't as hard to handle. Either way, it's just sad.

Sir Nottaguy-Imadad said...

I've told both of my children, that when the time comes, do not hesitate to put me in a nursing home. Having seen first hand what caring for an elderly parent can do to not only a marraige, but to friendships,I will not hold ill will toward them. My MIL has adjusted well, and now refers to her care facility as "home".

Anonymous said...

I can understand her nit anting her mother in law living with them. It was not an understanding. My husband and I discussed this before we got married. We will open our home to either set of parents that needs to live with us, but not if they have dementia or alzheimer's. I have known a lot of people with dementia that took off and there were horrible consequences. I can't watch my kids 24/7 and could not do that with a parent that has dementia. Dementia runs in our family. My Aunt and Grandmother both have it. My Dad is trying to ignore it, but she is a danger to herself and others. I would not be able to give the care for either of them, other than the fact I have 5 kids, they both have some extra serious issues. My Aunt can't walk now and is in no way light. She is almost impossible to get off the floor when she falls... and she falls all the time. She is now in a wheelchair and can't use her legs at all. There is no way I could handle her, even if I wanted to. My Grandmother does random and life endangering things. Sometimes she will get up to go to the bathroom and do something that can harm her or the next person that goes in there. Too scary. I can help any of them with regular aging issues, but not dementia related illnesses. I can handle a lot, but that would be too much for me. So, I guess this woman could be a weenie, but if they hadn't agreed before they got married and he did it just 5 weeks after getting married, I can't say I blame her. Newlyweds need to work on becoming a team. He split them up the minute he chose his mother over his wife.

Susan S. said...

Hey there girlie....I saw that show and it broke my heart. I thought the new wife was much meaner than called for. However, it's a hard situation for anyone...and I'm glad the lady got to go live with her sister. Did you see the program after the news with Cynthia McFadden and the son who's mother had Alzheimers? They put on special goggles, ear peices, tape their hands and put something in thier shoes to simulate being old. The people that did the experiment were going "crazy" after 15 minutes.

Lavender Chick said...

I think the overall census is that this is a very sad, sad story. Alzheimer's is very misunderstood as a disease. It broke my heart that the couple kept having disciplinary talks with their mother about the ground rules in the house. It's as if they really thought she could rationalize AND remember what they were telling her. It's just sad. There's no way it could be easy having your aging and sick MIL, or your own mother for that reason, come live with you. The role reversal itself of having to be parent to your parent is a difficult place to be. Bottom line, this is probably becoming far too common these days as more couples are finding themselves sandwiched between taking care of their own children and their parents.

Greyeyes said...

ACK!!! Great piece and i think that every married couple needs to talk with each other and the parents about the likelihood of that eventuality just to have the idea out there. It may not come of anything, but one thing is for certain, it will have been discussed. As for the girl, if it's who i think it is, no comment. Y'all be cool........

Dixie said...

I watched this program with great sadness. The daughter in law and her son were cruel by any standard. I felt sorry for her husband and his mother. He should definately had discussed it with her prior to moving mom in, but there's no excuse for the cruelty that the poor woman suffered. I was so happy in the end when her sister saved her and moved her in with her and her husband.

it doesn't surprize me that that horrible woman has been a bully all her life...

but Karma will get her... sooner than later..

happy 4th. Dixie

Anonymous said...

Years ago I read an article about growing old in Okinawa Japan... I think it is the 80th, but could be 85th birthday... anyway on this birthday your family has a party for you because you become a child again.

I think we should all ponder this, and while doing so hopefully our perceptions of our elderly parents and grandparents will change. I have three children under the age of 10; and I don't leave them home alone, I make three meals a day for them, I make sure they are clean etc... I will do the same for my family when the time comes. It is unconditional love...

Shame on the woman in the show. It sounds like she is still the same mean girl that chased you on your bike. Shame Shame!

Patriot said...

Just wanted to thank you again for the free lotion! I absolutely love it - especially after some hot days in too much sun. The aloe and lavender are wonderful!!

Blasé said...

I'll have nightmares tonight, I'm sure.

Kat said...

Yes, mean. Definitely mean.

Happy 4th!
Hugs!
Kat

Mrs. B. Silly said...

She sounds like a stinker to me! We had to deal with an unpleasant situation in my husband's family just after we were married but I did not complain and I did not let it drive a wedge between us. You just have to buck up and get through it.

Anonymous said...

Wow, does anyone else wonder why the husband doesn't take care of his mother? Seems like he only married that woman so he'd get a free nurse. While his poor old mom is stumbling around, he sits on his butt.